The ICP program in Stamford launched its first event virtually in spring of 2020.
Participating congregations include:
Guru Tegh Bahadur Foundation
Temple Beth El
Rose of Sharon Fellowship
The First Congregational Church of Greenwich
Islamic Cultural Center of NY - Stamford
Sathya Sai Baba Center of Stamford, CT
Union Baptist Church
Please refer to our Events page to sign up for our virtual visits!
Ground Rules for Dialogue
Vow. Resolve that the space between us will be safe. Resolve that our experience together will be met with openness and compassion.
Listen. 100%. Listening means acknowledging and attending to what is heard, without addition or subtraction. We must be careful not to categorize, define, or otherwise accessorize the already complete truth of what we hear. In other words, if we release our grasp on our supposed “position”, we naturally make room for something new. Practice “deep listening.”
Ask questions. Become curious. Cultivate a willingness to go beyond what we ‘know’ and encounter with genuine interest what arises in the here and now. Invite the wonder of not knowing.
Offer respect and suspend judgment. Honor one another as valued individuals and as participants in multiple social and cultural communities. Notice reactions and judgments to others and ourselves, and let them go.
Confidentiality. Avoid gossip and protect the confidentiality of our exchange.
Speak from experience. Being ourselves, share the confusion and the clarity; look to our experience rather than our opinions. Avoid leaning on the words of experts and authorities. Use “I” statements.
Become new. Risk showing up as we are in the moment, leaving behind our habit mind and also our habitual storylines, both about ourselves and others.
Trust. Pay close attention, and trust the strength and wisdom of the process. This is cultivating the spaciousness of a wide mind. Refrain from the urge to ‘fix’ or give advice— rather, see and reflect the perfection of each person, situation, and condition, just as it is.
Become equal. Each person speaks with the voice of the whole. Everything that arises within us and within the dialogue is some aspect of the truth.
Forgive oneself and one another. We acknowledge we may make mistakes along the journey. We seek out to forgive ourselves and one another for any trespasses, and to commit ourselves to a new beginning.
Adapted from guidelines of Zen Master Jeong Ji, blueheronzen.org, with modifications and additions by the Stamford Sharing Sacred Spaces Planning Committee.